for the sugar + salt

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I ASKED MY SISTAGIRL TRIBE THE SAME THREE QUESTIONS:

 

#1 - HOW HAVE YOU HAD TO JUGGLE THE SUGAR + SALT?

What's funny is sometimes, sugar + salt taste good together. I love chocolate covered pretzels. You get the sweet with a pinch of salt which tastes good to me. And that's how my challenges and victories have been; good...together.  That may seem crazy because we all want life to only be sweet.  But without the salt, I would not be who I am.  I would not have had to use my boldness or assertiveness in certain situations if life was just sweet.  God would not have showed me what I am capable of had it not been for the salt.  The salt makes me lean on God and makes the foundation of who I am stronger. I don't juggle the sugar + salt, I enjoy them both at the same time.

#2 - WHICH SUGAR + SALT MOMENT TAUGHT YOU YOUR GREATEST LESSON?

I cannot give one sugar + salt moment, but the basis for all of my moments have been, "Maya, why don't you think you are worthy?  Worthy to have everything your heart desires.  Worthy to have a man who loves every characteristic and quirk about you, and wants to give you the world.  Worthy to have people who will push you toward being yourself."

#3 - WHAT SKILLS DID YOU DEVELOP FROM YOUR SUGAR + SALT MOMENT?

Worthiness has been an uphill battle for me and continues to be one.  However, I have learned to trust in God's love for me because it is enough for me.  I speak affirmations over myself and I do not back down from settling boundaries. I can have boundaries and still be a loving, considerate person.

 
JAIMI ALEXANDER

JAIMI ALEXANDER

#1 - HOW HAVE YOU HAD TO JUGGLE THE SUGAR + SALT?

This rollercoaster of a journey has shown me the sugar and salt keep me balanced. I quickly learned how necessary they both are and to balance between allowing and surrendering to them both! Can’t get too sad about the losses as if you’ll never gain again and can’t get too overly excited by the victories as if “you’ve arrived”, however each should be acknowledged for what they are and appreciated in their nature as presented. This… Is life.

#2 - WHICH SUGAR + SALT MOMENT TAUGHT YOU YOUR GREATEST LESSON?

I would have to say in the area of my heart and passion. There was a part of me that used to love men/people and pursue passions with no discernment, no guard, and no strategy. Born sweet as pie, salt is also a part of ME that I had to taste to understand. Through the ever so salty blood, sweat and tears of course. But with variety being the spice of life, sugar ALL the time would be boring. I learned my love for growth and change would be a flavorful experience and I would have to expand my palate in order to actually survive.

 

#3 - WHAT SKILLS DID YOU DEVELOP FROM YOUR SUGAR + SALT MOMENT?

Welp….“A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, in the most delightful way.” I’m becoming skillful at allowing the salt of life, for there is healing in that too, but in knowing that everything happens for the greater good of those who are called, I can’t help but embrace that sweet notion along with the saltiest of moments, by expressing gratitude for the experience.

 

#1 - HOW HAVE YOU HAD TO JUGGLE THE SUGAR + SALT?

For a long time I tried to rid myself of the salt and focus on the sugar…It didn’t work because I am the salt, the sweet and the spice and to remove or eliminate one would make me someone else. So now I make something sweet and tasty with whatever I am given.

#2 - WHICH SUGAR + SALT MOMENT TAUGHT YOU YOUR GREATEST LESSON?

A Sugar and Salt moment that taught me about life happened this year. I am not ashamed to share it now because it was necessary for me to BE and to connect to a tribe that supports all the bitter sweet that i am. Sedona, AZ Magic Camp. This experience put me in front of 30+ women doing something I loved and something I didn’t really think much about…cooking. For 4 days I made 3 meals a day for these ladies and their response was overwhelming. This was the sugar. The salt came from a bitterness that took root in one of my relationships and as I began to shine in my gift she began to shrink in hers (or so she thought). I gained a tribe and I lost a friend…but that is The Sugar & The Salt of it.

#3 - WHAT SKILLS DID YOU DEVELOP FROM YOUR SUGAR + SALT MOMENT?

I am still learning. I learn from most of my experiences…but this tough me to believe and trust in myself. I looked for external validation and support and felt discouraged when i didn’t receive it. But then discernment and intuition kicked in to show me that I was looking for validation from broken people feigning wholeness and so my search turned inward and baby….I am enough and now I see how DOPE I AM.